Barb Aasen - Creating a Decision Matrix

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Creating a Decision Matrix

When making a major decision in life, a decision matrix is a great tool. Below is an outline of a matrix. You look at it from the perspective of doing something (Yes or No) and the effects (positive and negative) it will have on you and loved ones now and in the future (later). Just write down what comes to mind as you look at your options. It has helped me make a few decisions in my life. I include one of my decision matrixes below.

TIME

Behaviour:	NOW		LATER
Behaviour:	Positive	Negative	Positive	Negative
YES
NO

When I was contemplating dropping out of university 13 years ago, thinking it was too stressful and not worth it, I filled in the following decision matrix and it really helped me to make the decision. Here is my matrix filled in:

Decision Matrix (Example)

Question: Should I remain at university and get my degree?

TIME

Behaviour:	NOW		LATER
Behaviour:	Positive	Negative	Positive	Negative
YES (I should stay at uni)	*Learning new things	No spare time Little money *Pressure to succeed	Goal achieved Good job prospects	*Regret at putting the kids and I under stress
NO (I should not stay at uni)	Pressures gone More free time with kids	Disappointing myself No challenge in life *Not working toward something of value	? Nil	Regret Lost chance *Stuck in low paying, unfulfilling jobs

After looking at this decision matrix, and comparing the positives and negatives of each option, it was obvious what I should do: stick with university and finish my degree and it will be worth it! Here I am 13 years later and definitely happy that I made that decision.

Retreats in Bali

Retreats in Bali

*Journey to Your Soul (April 3-8, 2012)

If you want to become aligned with your soul and fulfil your highest purpose, then this is the workshop for you! Has your life been so focussed on others that you have lost touch with the deepest part of yourself: your soul? Would you like to re-connect and make peace with this part of you? Do you sense you need healing and cleansing of some old patterns, behaviours or memories?

*Manifesting Your Dreams (April 16-22, 2012)

Is there a dream bursting to come alive within you? Have you wanted to do something, complete a project or manifest something big in your life but not known how to start the birthing process? This workshop will empower you to manifest the dreams within your heart. Even if you don't fully know what these dreams are, the workshop will help you to listen to the still small voice within and find the passion that has always been there, often suppressed and forgotten.

Marathon Therapy

Marathon Therapy in Bali

An Intensive 6 days. Three hours of therapy per day. That’s 18 sessions of therapy in 6 days.

Imagine staying in a relaxing, serene environment, no phones, no family responsibilities, no obligations, no work commitments. Then imagine having one-on-one sessions with a professional therapist (Psychologist) to help break through the issues that have been blocking your happiness and success. You can choose to have 1 hour in the morning and 2 hours in the late afternoon or visa versa. It’s your choice. After therapy sessions, you can relax by a pool, go for a swim or snorkel, or have a massage or pedicure. It’s up to you. It’s all about seeking your inner guidance, finding yourself again and clearing and cleansing your total being: body, mind and soul.

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