Being a Good Parent to Yourself: A Self-Parenting Visualisation

So many of us did not receive the kind of parenting that is conducive to wholesome adult living. If we did not feel loved unconditionally and supported completely, we may suffer as adults, demanding from those around us the love and support that we so desperately desire. But other adults are not here to be our parents. We need to look after ourselves and if we missed out on some vital parenting, then it is up to us to do that for ourselves.

I have found this self-parenting visualisation to be very useful for instilling an inner mother and father within yourself.  Before you listen to it, think about some words that describe your ideal mother and father. They might be things like: strong and supportive, loving, kind, fun, a good listener, available. Also, think about the words you would most like to hear from each parent when you have had a bad day (“Everything will work out fine, don’t worry”) or when something negative happens to you (“I’m here for you.”) Then, turn off your phone, sit down on a chair and listen to the audio below. You might want to listen to it more than once, perhaps a few times over the next few weeks.

Visualisation of Instilling Inner Parents:

If you liked this visualisation, you might like to listen to the inner child visualisation here.   

Being a Good Parent to Yourself

Take responsibility for your inner child today. Be the parent she/he needs and wants. Begin to give what she/he needs. If your inner child is worried, scared, hurt or alone, be there for her/him and speak soothing words of refreshing calm. Imagine your parent self looking at your child self and saying the things you need to hear. See the article, How to Love, Nurture and Discipline Your Inner Child for ideas on how to be a good parent to yourself.