Assessing What You Want:
Values, Needs & Wants
Review your 5 top values (from the Values worksheet).
Remember, your values express what is important to you. They represent who you are: your “essence.” Our needs
and wants are often expressions of our values. Explore your chosen values to see what they tell you about
your needs and wants. Some examples follow:
Changing values into needs
Values Needs
1.Inner
Peace
I have a need for inner
peace.
In order to gain this
I need time on my own
2. Security
I have a need to feel secure.
In order
to gain this security,
I
need money in the bank.
3. Adventure I
have a need for adventure in my life. In order to gain this sense of adventure, I need to go on overseas
trips to exotic places.
4. Freedom I
have a need in my life for freedom. In order to gain this freedom, I need to have a flexible time schedule
that leaves me plenty of time to pursue other things.
5. Learning I
have a need for learning. In order to fulfill this need for learning, I need books and learning opportunities
(workshops, courses).
Changing needs into
wants
Needs Wants
1. I need time on my own. I
want my own room (sanctuary) where I can spend time on my own and where I will not be
disturbed.
2. I need to have money in the bank. I
want to design a savings plan.
3. I need to go to exotic places. I
want to go to Vietnam.
4. I need plenty of flexible, free time. I
want a job that allows plenty of freedom (my own business).
5. I need to learn. I
want to buy a new book each month and to attend interesting workshops or courses at least 4 times a
year.
Changing wants into
goals
I want my own
sanctuary
in the house.
Goals
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I will discuss with the family my use of the
spare room.
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This weekend I will clean out the spare room put my old
desk in it.
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I will go shopping for some new curtains next pay
day.
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I will buy 2 pot plants and a nice lamp the following
pay day.
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Next weekend I will set up the room with my personal
things (angel cards, journal, pens, etc.)
I want to design a savings
plan.
Goals
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Find a budget form on the internet.
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Gather all old bills from last year.
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Write a budget with John.
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Decide how much we can save each
payday.
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Open a new savings account and arrange a direct debit
for savings.
Assess the values underlying your wants
This is another way to assess your needs and wants.
In order to understand why you want certain things in your life, explore what needs
and values are expressed by a want you have.
Wants
Values
1. I want a relationship 1.
I need companionship and love. One of my values is love.
2. I want a convertible Astra! 2.
I need a car that feels fun to drive. One of my values is excitement.
3. I want to learn to paint. 3.
I need to express myself creatively. One of my values is creativity.
4. I want to do meditation. 4.
I need to be connected to my inner self. One of my values is inner peace.
5. I want a baby. 5.
I need to be able to give my love and nurturing to a child. One of my values is
love. I also value family.
Now, you try it! Follow the above example and write
about what it is that you want and need, based on your values. Set goals and ask for what you want
and need, knowing that this is your expression in this world and you have a right (or a deep inner need) to express
who you are. If you have trouble Asking For What You Want,
see the worksheet on that topic.
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