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Inner Peace

Asking For What You Want

In order to be happy, we need to be able to live a life that expresses who we are. If we accept that underneath our needs and wants are our values, then when we ask for what we need and want, we are simply asking to express who we are! Sometimes, we are the hardest person to convince that we can have what we want. Start today. Be true to yourself. Discover what it is that makes you happy and then start asking for what you want. You might like to do the exercises from the worksheets: Values, Living Your Values, and Assessing What You Want. Then follow these 3 steps when asking someone for what you want:

1. Choose a mutually agreeable time to sit and discuss what you want. Begin the discussion by expressing your needs from a values point of view. Some examples:

- “I value (or I love) peace of mind, therefore I need some quiet time everyday on my own in a peaceful environment.”

- “I value a sense of security, therefore I really need to design a savings plan so that I have money in the bank.”

- “I value (or I love) adventure, therefore I need to go to exotic places like Vietnam.”

2. Be specific about what you want and state it:

- “I want to make the spare room into my quiet space where I can spend mornings from 6 to 7 undisturbed.”

- “I want us to sit down together and work out a savings plan.”

- “I want to plan a trip next year to Vietnam. I am going to the travel agent’s to get some brochures.”

3. Conclude with a request:

- “ Would that be alright with you?”

- “Are you available Thursday night to work on that?”

- “Do you want to come?”

- “Can we discuss this?”

Is there something you would like to ask for but have been putting it off for fear of the response you might get? Sit down with pen and paper and follow the above 3 steps and write down your request in the format given here. Practice it before you approach the person you will be asking. Then take a deep breath and do it! Ask for what you want. Remain calm. Smile as you speak. If at first you don’t succeed, ask again in a few days or weeks. For some requests, you may not need another person’s approval or help. You may actually want their support, but if you don’t get it, consider giving yourself what you want. For example, you could plan a trip to Vietnam and go on your own or with a friend. You could start your own savings plan (and use the savings to go to Vietnam!) Remember, this is your life. Make it what you want. There’s no dress rehearsal. This is it!

Retreats in Bali

Retreats in Bali

*Journey to Your Soul (April 3-8, 2012)

If you want to become aligned with your soul and fulfil your highest purpose, then this is the workshop for you! Has your life been so focussed on others that you have lost touch with the deepest part of yourself: your soul? Would you like to re-connect and make peace with this part of you? Do you sense you need healing and cleansing of some old patterns, behaviours or memories?

*Manifesting Your Dreams (April 16-22, 2012)

Is there a dream bursting to come alive within you? Have you wanted to do something, complete a project or manifest something big in your life but not known how to start the birthing process? This workshop will empower you to manifest the dreams within your heart. Even if you don't fully know what these dreams are, the workshop will help you to listen to the still small voice within and find the passion that has always been there, often suppressed and forgotten.

Marathon Therapy

Marathon Therapy in Bali

An Intensive 6 days. Three hours of therapy per day. That’s 18 sessions of therapy in 6 days.

Imagine staying in a relaxing, serene environment, no phones, no family responsibilities, no obligations, no work commitments. Then imagine having one-on-one sessions with a professional therapist (Psychologist) to help break through the issues that have been blocking your happiness and success. You can choose to have 1 hour in the morning and 2 hours in the late afternoon or visa versa. It’s your choice. After therapy sessions, you can relax by a pool, go for a swim or snorkel, or have a massage or pedicure. It’s up to you. It’s all about seeking your inner guidance, finding yourself again and clearing and cleansing your total being: body, mind and soul.

Home About Therapy & Retreats Therapy Marathon Therapy Journey to Your Soul Retreat Manifesting Your Dreams Retreat Amed Accommodation Barb's policies Self-Help Worksheets Finding Happiness Ten Keys to Happiness Detachment Gratitude, an Elixer For Unhappiness Give up the Blame Game 5 Tips on Making Decisions Creating a Decision Matrix 15 Ways to Overcome a Negative Mood Formula for Instant Peace and Happiness A Purpose Driven Life Values Living Your Values Assessing What You Want Asking For What You Want Tips for Setting Goals Finding Your Purpose Vision For a Perfect Life Fulfilling Dreams Designing a Vision Board